Whether you are married or in a long-term relationship, keeping the romance fresh and alive can be a challenging task. With demanding work schedules, romance often suffers, which can have catastrophic consequences for your relationship. Maintaining the romance in your relationship will support your long-term mental and physical health, increase the connection between you and your partner, and possibly lead to a more fulfilling life.
Method One of Three:
Sustaining Your Physical RomanceEdit
1Start your day with a physical display of love. As soon as you wake up, kiss your partner on the cheek to give them a reminder of your love. Studies show that starting your day off by warmly greeting and physically touching your partner leads to a better outlook on the rest of the day. Physical contact in the morning will set a positive tone for your day.
- Wake up just a few minutes before your partner, turn off the alarm clock, and gently kiss their cheek to wake them.
- If you are apart for some reason and cannot offer physical love, try sending loving text messages for your partner to wake up to.
2Tease your partner. Walk around the house in just a towel or stroke their back as you walk by them. Do small acts to tease and tantalize your partner. Build their anticipation and desire for your touch.
- Full body massages are great ways to build the tension and feel intimate and connected.
3Show affection in public. Touch is the primary language of compassion, and it conveys trust and safety. When you touch your partner in public, you both receive these benefits, plus the added benefit of knowing that others know about your love. Showing your love in public, conveys that you are not ashamed of your partner, and you want the whole world to know you are together.
- Hold the door for your partner, and as she walks by, place your hand on the small of her back.
- When you are waiting in line at the bank, face each other and embrace in a hug.
- Do not be inappropriate in public, as it can be illegal when taken too far.
4Purchase “The Kama Sutra." Sex is a critically important aspect of a happy and long-lasting relationship. Find ways to have romantic and meaningful sexual encounters. Purchase books like the “Kama Sutra” to learn new ways to pleasure your partner.
- Talk to each other about your likes and dislikes in bed. Learn your partner’s turn-ons, and do your best to make them happy.
5Create a “Fantasy Jar.” Write down all of the erotic fantasies you would like to engage in with your partner, including role play or public affections. Sharing fantasies with your partner reveals a deep and private side to you, which will enhance your connection and intimacy.
- When your partner shares their fantasy, do not judge them; instead play along. You both have to be fully engaged and committed to each fantasy to increase the pleasure.
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Method 1 Quiz
What is the benefit of sharing your erotic fantasies?
Method Two of Three:
Improving Your Emotional ConnectionEdit
1Communicate often and honestly. Open and honest communication is a cornerstone to a happy and romantic relationship. Telling your partner exactly how you feel, including your likes and dislikes, will increase clarity between you two, and help maintain overall happiness. Spend at least five minutes per day checking in with each other about the status of your relationship. Talk about how certain situations made you feel or how you would like to see some things happen differently.
- When you communicate with your partner, try to frame things positively. For example, if you did not like that your partner said you would attend their work event without asking, instead of saying “Don’t make my decisions for me," say something like, “I love to support you in your job, however I would really appreciate it if we could discuss going to social events before you RSVP.”
2Leave love notes around the house for your partner to find. Create small acts of kindness that let your partner know you are thinking about them when you are apart. Your partner will appreciate the effort and will feel your love in your absence.
- Other acts of kindness could include sending love texts while at work, writing “you are beautiful” on the mirror, packing their lunch the night before, or cleaning the house.
3Be appreciative of your partner. Appreciation adds value to your partner and to your relationship. Express the physical, personal, and professional attributes that you value in your partner to make them feel loved and respected. Focus on the positive qualities, such as their hair, humor, or selflessness. 
4Accept your partner for their mistakes and flaws. Your partner is not perfect and you knew that going into the relationship. Accept that they might not put away dishes, or that they run chronically late. Do not try to change your partner; instead, focus on promoting the good things about them such as their intelligence or ability to light up a room!
- Become aware of your own flaws and recognize you are not perfect to help you accept your partner’s flaws.
- Be respectful of your partner and their flaws. If they are chronically late, respect that it is their decision to be late, but allow yourself to be on time.
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Method 2 Quiz
Instead of trying to change your partner, you should:
Method Three of Three:
Changing Your RoutineEdit
1Plan a novel and exciting date night. Forget a pleasant evening at a French restaurant you have been to fifteen times. Try going on exciting and fresh dates, such as paintball or white water rafting. Science shows that couples who engage in exciting dates were more satisfied than those engaging in pleasant and routine dates.
- Go on dates that allow you to participate as a couple such as dancing, kayaking, or building a fort.
2Pretend each date you go on is your first date. On a first date, you make a significant effort to impress. If you strive to look your best and be on your best behavior each time you go on a date with your partner, you will both feel happier and more satisfied.
3Go away for one weekend a month. Leave your home for two days a month and visit a place you have never gone with your partner. You can plan the getaway or make it spontaneous. Throw a dart at a map and go to wherever it lands. If money or children make travelling difficult, try spending time in a different part of your house you often neglect.
- Try to just change your setting as much as possible. By being with your partner in a different environment, you may see them in a different light.
- Going on trips can also test your relationship by revealing your compatibility, showing how you manage each other when you are together 24/7.
4Spend time apart. Taking time for yourself in a relationship is a healthy step because it promotes independence and adds mystery into your lives. If you love going to art museums but your partner does not, going on your own can encourage self-love, which will be carried into your relationship.
- Have a “girl’s or boy’s night” and hang out with your own group of friends. You can talk about things you wouldn’t necessarily discuss with your partner, and you will be reminded of yourself as an individual, instead of yourself in a partnership.
5Give your partner a gift just because you love them. Everybody loves to get gifts! It doesn’t have to be a birthday or Christmas to present your partner with a gift. If you are at the store and see something that reminds of you your partner, purchase it, wrap it up, and give it to them that evening at dinner. Your partner will be surprised by the unforeseen gift and appreciate your kindness and generosity.
- Give gifts in moderation. Do not buy every item that reminds you of your partner.
- Purchase gifts that are fiscally responsible. Buying your partner a red Mercedes is not practical and could get you into financial trouble.
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Method 3 Quiz
What is the benefit of changing the setting you share with your partner?
The best way to maintain romance in your relationship is to improve your emotional connection by communicating openly and honestly with your partner. Accept your partner for who they are, and show your appreciation for them with physical intimacy and gifts. For more advice from our reviewer on how to sustain your physical romance, including tips on how to start your day with a physical display of love, read on!
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