If you like a girl, asking her to be your valentine is a great way to let her know how you feel. There are lots of creative and fun ways to ask her, or you can just be direct. No matter how you ask, make sure you have a good plan for the two of you to spend time together on Valentine’s Day.
Method One of Three:
1Send her a gift. Buy her a pizza and write something clever, like “I know it’s cheesy, but will you be my valentine?” in the lid. Get her a small stuffed animal, and hang a sign on the animal’s neck with the question “Will you be my valentine?” Send her a box of chocolates or candy hearts with the question on the lid.
2Write her a note. Make her a homemade valentine’s card. Cut it out of red or pink construction paper. Use your best handwriting to tell her you’d like her to be your valentine. You could also buy a valentine.
- Choose a card that reflects your relationship. Pick something romantic if you’re already going out with her or something more laid back if you’re friends.
3Give her flowers. Send her flowers or give them to her in person. Attach a little note to the flowers that asks her to be your valentine. Use the card even if you give them to her in person.
4Bake something for her. Surprise her with homemade goodies. Make sure you follow the recipe, especially if you don’t bake regularly. Ask her to be your valentine when you give her the treat.
- Joke about it if your creation doesn’t end up tasting great. For example, you can say that you did your best to bring her something sweet, even if it can’t measure up to how great and sweet she is.
5Cover the ground with chocolate kisses. Buy some chocolate kisses. Try to get them in Valentine’s Day pink and red if you can. Glue them to the ground where you know she will be, like her front step or in front of her locker at school. Write her a note saying, “Now that I have kissed the ground that you walk on, will you be my valentine?”
- You can also glue them to the ground in a line along a path that she commonly walks.
6Use your talents. Use your talents or skills to make your valentine proposal extra special. Skills like drawing, writing, or playing a musical instrument can be used to your advantage.
- For example, if you’re an artist, you can hand draw a card for her.
- If you’re a musician, you can ask her to be your valentine with a heartfelt serenade.
7Incorporate her interests. Use her interests to inspire your proposal ideas. Think about her hobbies, extracurricular activities, and favorite colors, animals, foods, and places.
- You might ask her to be your valentine in her favorite park, or send her a stuffed elephant if she’s crazy about elephants.
- Feel free to combine several of her interests in a single proposal. If she loves cupcakes and the color orange, try baking her cupcakes with orange icing!
Method Two of Three:
1Find a good time to talk with her. Don’t just rush up to her to ask if she’ll be your valentine. Figure out when you can have a few quiet moments together during the day if you see her regularly. Call her when you know she’ll be home.
2Keep it simple. Don’t worry too much about what to say. Tell her you’d like her to be your valentine. If you want to add anything, list a few of the things you like about her. You’d could also remind her of things you have in common or enjoy doing together.
- Focus on saying things you like about her as a person. Try saying things like, “I like how nice you are to other people” or “I admire your confidence” or “You’re really creative and funny.”
- Remember to tell her how nice she looks.
3Practice your spiel if you’re nervous or shy. Work up your courage to ask her in person by rehearsing what you want to say. Be calm and confident with your speech and your body language. Keeping your eyes forward, your back straight, and your hands out of your pockets will help you look and feel more confident.
- Don’t worry about what she might be looking for in a valentine and focus on being yourself.
- Start by saying hi: “Hi, it’s so good to see you!” Then, show an interest in her by asking “How are you?”
- Be sure to tell her you’d like to spend time together on Valentine’s Day: “I’d love to get together on Valentine’s.”
Method Three of Three:
Minding the DetailsEdit
1Dress nicely when you ask her. Make an effort to impress her with your outfit and hygiene because this will show you think she’s worth that effort. Avoid looking sloppy or like you don’t care. Don’t worry about dressing in your best clothes -- you just want to look put together.
2Ask her in person or over the phone. Talking with her in person will impress her and show her you’re sincere. Send her a text or a private message on Facebook or Instagram to break the ice if you’re feeling shy. Follow up with a phone call to make it more personal.
3Suggest a specific date for Valentine’s Day. Ask her to dinner or lunch or invite her on a picnic. Suggest something fun, like ice skating or another activity you both enjoy. Be prepared to treat her since you’re asking her out.
- For example, you can say, “I’d love to take you out to dinner, and then we can go to glow golf.”
- If the weather is nice enough you can suggest, “Let’s spend the afternoon at the lake. I’ll bring a picnic and we can rent a boat. What’s your favorite picnic food?”